I need to take pause from everything I have been doing (and neglecting– sorry photo challengers!) of late to express some true emotions.
The fact of the matter is: I don’t do those well. I am not a pretty crier. My face gets instantly red and puffy, snot rolls freely down my face and I can barely swallow the massive lump in my throat. But sometimes you just have to show that side– the ugly-crying side, that is– when it comes to saying good-bye. I have actively resisted crying or truly acknowledging how I’m feeling about this move to anyone (except possibly my husband) because I just don’t handle emotions very well. And I certainly don’t handle good-byes well at all.
My family has evolved so much over the past five years that Matt and I have lived in North Idaho. Our marriage has survived, not only the half-decade, but a job-change and integration into a new community. Both of my children were born here. They hit so many important milestones here. I can still see my daughter, at nine months old, playing on the floor of my now best friend’s house, on the first day that Sarah and I met. I remember the green of the grass as she stood alone for the first time in the front lawn, the exact shade of the carpet on which she took her first steps. Her first nursery, my son sleeping in the cradle at the end of my bed, the moments of them growing in this small town that have irrevocably changed me as a person and a parent. This place has been important.
Someone asked me what I would miss most, and I did not skip a beat with my answer: the people. I have met and had the privilege to form relationships with some of the most amazing people while here. It’s true that I will meet people wherever I go, but something about joining forces with my fellow moms in the formative years of our mid to late twenties has given these people a special place, forever in my heart. Watching our children grow together, some of them from the very beginning is awe-inspiring. One moment, I was touching the stretched belly of my friend and the next, I was gleefully cuddling a fresh, new person. We have nurtured each other and each others children, with no resentment toward the feeling of responsibility. These mothers have been my village. This experience of motherhood has not been singular; it has been shared. Connections never seem so strong until it’s time to let go.
The people I have met outside of my parenting circle, too, have had an incomparable effect on me. People with so much passion and drive for justice and social change, people who give all they have to a cause without thought or fear. Only in the last eighteen months or so have I become involved again with activism, and thanks to the inspiration and example of my new friends, I do not want to give it up.
These people have been so important.
I have moved a lot in my life. Three different schools with very different friends as a child and teenager, followed by a cross-country trek to Boise for college and then a northward sojourn to our current home. Now, on to Houston. There is no doubt that this time is different. Apart from all the stress and the certain culture shock that awaits our sheltered foursome, I have become attached. For all my complaining and the inconsolable itching my shoes, I will miss this place. I will miss these people.
I don’t have the words to thank everyone for what you have meant to me. I don’t have the power in me to look each one of you in the eyes and tell you the love and gratitude I have for you, whatever it is that you have done for me or my family.
Get ready to ugly cry for the next three days.
These last five years have been so important.